A Pocket Guide to Alternative Menstrual Products

I am going to give an overview of some different menstrual products that you may not have heard of. The advantages of these alternatives include the fact that they are associated with contributing less to environmental waste and are not linked to health problems, such as Toxic Shock Syndrome. So, delve in to my handy guide for those who are curious about different menstrual methods:


Read the rest over on Zusterschap Collective!

How to Choose the Right Menstrual Cup for You | Not One Size Fits All!

Hello blog readers! Today I am back with a new post about menstrual cups. I am part of several Facebook groups about reusables (you'll find them linked in #RUMPS Resources in the toolbar above), and the most common question I see is something along the lines of.. "How do I pick a cup! There are so many brands! I'm so lost! Help!"

When I started getting into cups and blogging about cups three years ago, there were probably half as many brands as there are now. And it seems like a new cup brand pops up every week. However even with the plethora of brands, don't panic, it's easy to pick a cup that will work decently for you, although it may take purchasing a cup or two before you find that goldilocks cup! (If you so choose you can sell your gently used cup online if it doesn't work; don't worry.)

Back when I was into collecting cups! I had a lot of them, but only one was my goldilocks (Lunette which actually isn't pictured here.)

So, let's start from square one. There are a few factors to consider when getting your first cup: cup length, cup width, firmness or softness, color, material, country of origin, and price. Thankfully cups seem to have expanded to many areas of the world, but in all likelihood (unless you want a DivaCup or a Mooncup if you live in the US or UK) you will have to order your cup online. You can find out where menstrual cups are sold on the ground close to you, by visiting menstrualcupmap.com. It's an amazing resource!

How to Choose Your Menstrual Cup:

Measure your cervix to determine the length of cup you should buy. Your cervix is the part of your vagina where your menstrual fluid leaves. It's important to measure how far up your cervix is in your vagina before you buy a cup, because some cups are longer and some are shorter, so they work worse or better with people who have lower or higher cervixes. If you have a low cervix you will want a shorter, stouter cup so that it does not ride down or out of you while you're wearing it. So before deciding which cup to buy, find out how high or low your cervix is using the following process.

1. Wait until you are on your period, because your cervix will be in different positions at different times of your monthly cycle. Also, you may want to measure on a couple of different days of your period, because it may not be exactly the same each day.
2. Gently and slowly insert a clean finger back, not up, into your vagina, past your pelvic bone, some muscles, and a kind of 'empty' space.
3. Wander around to find the bit that feels a bit like the tip of a nose. Your cervix is a round nub, with an indentation in the middle.
4. Note how far your finger went before touching your cervix, and measure your finger with a ruler to find out how many cm or mm back this was. If it's so far back you can't find it at all, just estimate a bit longer than your finger.

• Now what to do with this information! Some brands make cups as small as 4 centimeter (1.6 in) long or as large as almost 6 centimeter (2.4 in) long. Your cup will sit below your cervix when in use. If it is low, you will probably find a shorter cup such as Ladycup, Lunette, Fleurcup, Femmycycle, or Yuuki more comfortable. If you have a low cervix, the cup without the stem should not be too much longer than the distance from your cervix to your vaginal opening (but you have a bit of slack there, because your cervix can be partially in the cup). If it is very high, a longer cup such as Divacup, Naturcup, or Shecup would be better so that it will be easy to reach when you want to remove it, but in this case you can comfortably use most cup lengths.

A labelled diagram of our anatomy. Notice the cervix is the nubby type thing at the back of the vagina.
[Diagram from wikiHow, orginally created by LiveJournal user morien_san]

Take into consideration how heavy your flow is and cup capacity. Some cups only hold about 11mL and others up to 29mL. Observe on a general day of your period how many tampons you use and how often you change them. Then, using the tampon capacities listed below, calculate your flow volume for twelve hours. This would be the target capacity you want in your cup. In general it's best to overestimate than underestimate so you are not changing your cup too often. Pads have capacities ranging from about 100-500 ml, but the pad would be fully saturated and leaking by this point. If you use pads, there is not a precise way to calculate the capacity you need, so just consider a light flow capacity cup (10-16ml), medium (17-22ml), or large (23-29ml). Tampon capacities:

• Light/Regular: 6-9ml
• Super: 9-12ml
• Super plus: 12-15ml
• Ultra: 15-18ml

Take aesthetics into account. Cups come different colors. They have frosted or slick finishes, grips rings or no grip rings. Stems can be hollow, flat, or cylindrical; some even have grip rings or ball stems instead. All of these things depend on the brand, and this is another characteristic to consider when purchasing your cup.

Consider your bladder sensitivity, fitness level, and other factors before choosing a soft or firm cup. If you have never used internal menstrual products this may be a little hard to gage, but it's important to consider.

• If you have a sensitive bladder you may find that a cup that is too firm will press uncomfortably on your bladder, which could cause you to feel like you have to pee! This is not good, so consider a softer cup if this may be the case. 
• As well if you are very active, or have done a lot of dance or similar activities, you may have very strong pelvic muscles which could crush a soft cup; in that case go for a firmer cup. This may also be the case for people who have jobs or acvtivities which inolve squatting, pushing, pulling, or heavy lifting. Lastly, if you are overweight or obese, you may have more weight pressing on your pelvic area and might want to consider a firmer cup for this reason.
• It's also good to remember that in general soft cups may take some finagling to make them pop open fully in the vagina, while firmer cups tend to pop open more easily on their own. Slightly firmer cups are usually easier to use for this reason.

Decide on the brand of menstrual cup you would like to buy. Once you have figured out the length and capacity you would like to have in your cup, check the size charts below. Cups are not one size fits all, because although you maybe able to make any cup work, a little premeditation as discussed above before buying will ensure your cup is comfortable and has the correct capacity for you.

Note: Virgins and teenagers can use cups! If you are a virgin, you can definitely use a cup. You may feel most comfortable choosing a smaller cup for your first cup. I personally think the Lunette is a good starter cup, unless you have a very low cervix. Keep in mind though that if you have a heavy flow, you can still use any size cup as a virgin, and may want to consider a larger cup. 

Cups can be used by menstruating people of any age, including those who have had children. But in general do not pay too much attention to the size guidelines given by companies. Many will say their bigger size is for those who have had children; it does help in some cases but ifyou have a light flow there is no need to get the bigger size of the cup.


There are several resources and size charts which are helpful when deciding on a cup. Some brands that work well for high cervices include Lunette, DivaCup, SheCup, and others. Some brands that work well for low cervices include Fleurcup, Lunette, LuvUrBody, Meluna Shorty, FemmyCycle and others. Cups with the highest capacity close to 40ml include Meluna XL, LuvUrBody Large, and Yukki large, although many of the size twos (but not all) have around 30ml of capacity. You can find the websites and prices for the cups below by typing them into the Google search bar above.

Here is the most up to date sizing chart I have found which will tell you specific dimensions all in one place: Menstrualcups.wordpress.com Size Charts

This is a great comparison of prices: Menstrualcup.co/ Size Charts

And this is Effblog's awesome pictorial comparison of almost all the brands: Theecofriendlyfamily Blog Photos and Size Charts

This site has many cup brands ranked from soft to firm (keep in mind this is a subjective thing to rate). Effblog's chart also rates them: Menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/ Cup Stiffness Ratings

If you want to see specific comparisons of two cups the best thing to do is type their names and "comparison" into the YouTube search bar. :)

List of Cup Brands:

Note that this is not a comprehensive list of all cup brands. There are several that need to be added to the list like RubyCup, LenaCup, OrganiCup, Super Jennie, LilyCup, EvaCup, and others.

CupLee

• Russian brand; only available locally at present
• Cylindrical, hollow stem with grip rings that extend to cup base
• Transparent finish and shiny texture
• Available in green, blue, pink, yellow, and clear colors
• Four suction release holes below rim
• Includes satiny pouch and wooden case

Sizing:

• Small (not currently available): 44x53mm, 17mm stem, 25-30ml capacity
• Large: 40x47mm, 21mm stem, 20-25ml capacity

DivaCup

Canadian Brand; available in US, Canada, and many European countries

Measuring lines in ounces and milliliters; brand name inside

Grip rings and hollow, cylindrical stem

Four suction holes, placed up near the rim

Translucent, frosty appearance

Sizing:

Model 1: 43x57mm, 10mm stem, and 20-23ml capacity; recommended for those under thirty who have never given birth.

Model 2: 46x57mm and 10mm stem, and 26-27ml capacity; recommended for those over thirty and/or those who have given birth vaginally or through cesarean section.

Femmecup

• UK Brand
• Clear finish and squishy silicone
• 4 slanted suction release holes under lower rim
• Firm rim and squishier base
• Spiraling grip ring on base and stem
• Solid, cylindrical stem
• Measuring lines inside the cup at 5 and 10ml
• No writing on inside rim

• Only one standard size; 45x50mm, 25mm stem, and 15ml capacity

Fleurcup

• Small, clear fleurcup (left) and large Fleurcup (right)
• Available colors
• French Brand
• Four slanted suction release holes; placed up near the rim; two on each side
• Almost opaque finish and "peach skin" texture
• Grip rings on stem, which is flat instead of round.
• Softer than some other brands; often recommended for first-time users.
• Available in clear, red, pink, violet, green, grey, orange, blue, and black

Sizing:

• Small: 41x47mm, 23mm stem, and 15ml capacity; recommended for younger those or those with a light flow.
• Large: 46x52mm, 18mm stem, and 29ml capacity; recommended for those who have given birth or for those with a heavy flow.

JuJu Cup

• Australian Brand
• Clear, shiny silicone cup
• Green, purple, and black satin finish pouches
• Four suction release holes, slanted second rim
• Easily cleanable logo on cup's inside
• Pyramidal shaped stem and butterfly shaped base grips

Sizing:

• Model 1: 40x46mm, 20ml capacity
• Model 2: 46x50mm, 30ml capacity

Instead Softcup

• A disposable cup; positioned differently than the other reusable cups mentioned
• Available at most drugstores
• Composed of a plastic sac and heat-sensitive ring
• Recommended for use during sexual intercourse
• See Use an Instead Softcup for more information

Iriscup

• S (left) and L (right) Iriscups
• Spanish Brand; only available in Spain
• Available in clear or pink
• Hollow, cylindrical stem with grip rings
• Slanted suction release holes at alternating heights
• Sizing:
• S: 40x45mm, 20mm stem, and 15ml capacity; recommended for those under 25 who may have given birth by cesarean section.
• L: 45x50mm, 15mm stem, and 20ml capacity; recommended for those over 25 and/or those that have given birth vaginally.

Keeper & US Moon Cup

Rubber Keeper

Silicone MoonCup

• US brand
• The Keeper is opaque and composed of natural gum rubber (aka latex). The Moon Cup, which is the same size, is composed of translucent silicone.
• Hollow, cylindrical stem
• Smooth finish, no grip rings
• Double spill proof rings on the inside
• Six suction release holes under the second rim

Sizing:

• Style A: 44x54mm, 25mm stem, and 15ml capacity; recommended for those who have given birth vaginally (After).
• Style B: 41x54mm, 25mm stem, and 10ml capacity; recommended for those who have not given birth vaginally or have given birth through cesarean section (Before); slightly firmer and smaller.

LadyCup & Color Cups

• Czech Brand
• Clear glossy finish and very smooth texture
• 6 slanted suction release holes at alternating heights
• Bumps along base for gripping; hollow, cylindrical stem
• The clear cup is referred to as a LadyCup, while the other colored cups are referred to as LilacCup, PinkCup, BlueCup, OrangeCup, GreenCup, and YellowCup. There is also the limited edition LOTOS Cup in a pink/orange color.

Sizing:

• Small: 40x46mm, 19mm stem, and 11ml capacity; recommended for those under 25 who have not given birth.
• Large: 46x53mm, 13mm stem, and 20ml capacity; recommended for those over 25 and/or those that have given birth.

Lunette

• Finnish Brand
• Four suction holes, placed up near the rim
• Grip rings on base and flat, tab-shaped stem
• Brand name on outside of cup
• Translucent finish; available in clear (Lunette), blue (Lunette Selene), light green (Lunette Diana), purple (Lunette Cynthia), coral red (Lunette Áine), and yellow (Lunette Lucia).

Sizing:

• Model 1: 41x47mm, 25mm stem, and 20ml capacity; recommended for those with a light to moderate flow, virgins, or younger those; made of a softer silicone.
• Model 2: 46x52mm, 20mm stem, and 25ml capacity; recommended for those with a normal to heavy flow; made of a stiffer silicone.

MeLuna

small and large regular Melunas

• German brand
• Made of TPE (thermoplastic elastomer); a rubber that is as safe to use as silicone
• Suction release holes near the rim
• Grip rings at base; foggy, textured finish
• Different stem styles:
• Basic: no stem; best for experienced cup users
• Ball: ball-shaped stem
• Traditional: long stem composed of gripping balls
• Ring: a tab-shaped stem
• Limited edition glitter cups are available
• Available in red, clear, violet, orange, green, blue, and black colors
• "Softcups" are also available in cyan and pink. They are made of 25% softer TPE.

Sizing (stem length varies for all) for regular Melunas:

• Small: 40x40mm and 10ml capacity
• Medium: 45x45mm and 15ml capacity
• Large: 45x54mm and 24ml capacity
• Extra large: 47x56mm and 30ml capacity

Sizing for Shorty melunas ideal for low cervices:

Miacup

• South African Brand
• Mauve/deep pink color and glossy, opaque finish
• 2 suction release holes under top rim
• Small logo on inside rim of cup (no writing)
• Grip rings on base and stem; flat, tab-shaped stem

Sizing:

• Model 1: 43x53mm, 17mm stem, and 21-23ml capacity; recommended for those under 30 who have not given birth vaginally.
• Model 2: 46x53mm, 17mm stem, and 26-27ml capacity; recommended for those over 30 or those who have given birth vaginally.

MissCup

• Brazilian brand (ships worldwide)
• Long, narrow bodied cup
• Slick finish and opaque silicone material
• Size B: recommended for those before 30 that haven't had children; 40x56mm, 16mm stem, and 30ml capacity
• Size A: recommended for those after 30 that haven't had children; 43x56mm, 16mm stem, and 30ml capacity

Mooncup (UK) 

• UK brand
• Because of a naming dispute with the Keeper company they are now sold in the US under the name MCUK.
• The original Mooncup had a distinctive yellow tint, but the latest version has a whiter colour
• Grip rings on base and stem (Newer version has grips the full length of the stem); hollow, cylindrical stem
• Measuring lines
• Six suction release holes under the lower rim

Sizing:

• Size A: 46x50mm, 20mm stem, and 12-13ml capacity; recommended for those who have given birth vaginally or are over 30.
• Size B: 43x50mm, 20mm stem, and 14ml capacity; recommended for those who have given birth by cesarean section or are under 30.

Mpower cup

• South African Brand; only available in South Africa because of legal dispute with Lunette company
• Nearly clear, soft finish
• Flat, tab-shaped stem
• Grip rings on base and stem
• Two suction release holes under rim
• Only one standard size; 47x54mm, 15mm stem, and 27ml capacity

NaturalMamma

• Italian brand
• White, opaque finish
• Cone shaped and soft silicone material
• Suction release holes
• Grips on base and stem
• only one standard size; 44x56mm, 15mm stem, 27ml capacity

Naturcup

• Spanish Brand; only available in Spain
• Four sizeable suction release holes
• Three subtle grip rings on base and ball-shaped stem
• Three measuring lines and cup size printed on the inside of cup
• Firmer ring and softer base
• Sizes:
• Size 0: diameter of 40mm and length of 56mm; recommended for those under 18 who are not sexually active.
• Size I: diameter of 43mm and length of 65mm; for those ages 18 to 30 who have not given birth vaginally.
• Size II: diameter of 47mm and length of 65mm; for those who have given birth vaginally and/or are older than 30.

Shecup

• Indian Brand
• Light pink
• Nub shaped stem
• Suction release holes under lower rim
• Writing on inside rim of cup and measuring lines
• Vertical grip lines at base of cup and one horizontal grip line on base
• Only one standard size; 44x54mm, 5.5mm stem, and 16ml capacity

SI-Bell cup

• French brand
• Translucent, white finish
• Bell shape and soft silicone material
• Grip rings on stem and ball at base
• Four suction release holes under rim

Sizes:

• S (small): 41x47mm, 27mm stem
• L (large): 46x52mm, 22mm stem

Yuuki

• Czech Brand
• Clear and glossy finish
• Grip rings on base and stem; hollow, cylindrical stem
• Brand name on inside of cup
• Four slanted suction release holes
• Measuring lines and spill proof line inside the cup

Sizing:

• Cup 1: smaller; 42x49mm, 20mm stem, and 19ml capacity
• Cup 2: larger; 47x55mm, 20mm stem, and 29ml capacity

Some of this text is copied from an open source wikiHow article which I wrote, although it has been edited by other editors. I will link to it here to avoid plagiarizing myself. As well all of the images from company websites have been approved to be used with an open source license for wikiHow, which extends to my blog. As well many of these iamges are from members of the LiveJournal Menstrual Cups community. Thank you to all for providing photos!

Please leave any questions below in the comments, or any ways this guide could be improved. Thank you for reading!

Sarah

My Experience with the Mirena IUD So Far

Hello everyone! I haven't blogged on here in a long time, but I wanted to come back on here today and talk about my experience with my Mirena IUD. I've missed you guys!

So as I've blogged about before, I used to use the NuvaRing as my birth control. They worked great, but just like other forms of birth control, they had to be replaced monthly. I got married about a year ago now, and we were moving overseas where I wasn't sure I would be able to get NuvaRings. So I decided to bite the bullet and get an IUD, which I have wanted ever since I knew what they were.

The IUD's placement inside the cervix

So what is an intrauterine device or IUD? It's a small t-shaped device that is inserted through the cervix and placed in the uterus by a gynecologist or similar professional. There are IUDs that work through hormones (like the Mirena) and there is also the Paraguard IUD which wards off sperm with copper which acts like a spermicide.

Hormonal and copper IUDs

They are highly effective and last for 3-12 years depending on the IUD you get. Copper IUDs are 99.2% effective and hormonal IUDs are 99.8% effective. The Mirena lasts 5 years and I have a small reminder card to keep in my wallet to remind me when to get it replaced.

First off, let's talk about insertion. The only drawback to IUDs is that they have to be inserted through the cervix. If you have given birth before your cervix will be stretched, and while you may feel some discomfort I do not think it is supposed to be painful. For women that have not given birth, it can be a little painful... OK for me it was really painful. I took an OTC pain killer before hand; there's usually no anesthesia with this procedure. It felt like very intense period cramps. (It also didn't help that I was on my period during this whole process. Also thank goodness for my gynecologist for dealing with a bloody vagina.) I would say my pain was about a 6 or 7 during the insertion on a 0-10 scale. Ouchie!

So it was quite painful for me, but it only lasted a couple minutes, or maybe less, but it felt like longer because of the pain. However, I did have aches and cramps for the rest of that day at about a 3-4 on the pain scale--not too different from bad cramps I get on the first day or so of my period. By the next day I was fully recovered. If I did it again I would definitely request some sort of topical anesthesia or something. Overall though, I definitely don't regret it and I'm so happy to have care free birth control now, especially since I'm living with my husband overseas.

I thought this was funny.

After the procedure you're left with two short strings that poke out of your cervix (but you can't feel them normally, unless you use your fingers). Periodically I check them to make sure they are still there and that the IUD hasn't expelled. That can happen but it's pretty rare. I haven't experienced any side effects (that I know of), and oh, right, I don't get my period anymore! While the copper IUD can lead to heaver periods, I knew I wanted to try the Mirena IUD when my doctor told me that the Mirena can lighten periods or make them disappear. Even though I have a blog about period products, I can't say I miss having my period. My cups do feel a little unloved though.

A graphic by Mirena showing how their IUD affects your period. At 8 months I no longer have periods, and mine stopped much earlier.

Now you might read that it's not safe to use menstrual cups or tampons with an IUD, but from my experience, and according to the research, this isn't true. I used my cup at the beginning when I still had a period and it was completely fine. It's recommended that you break the seal before pulling out the cup though, to avoid applying suction to the IUD, since the cup is right below it. But it's very secure, and I think I even forgot to break the seal a few times, and my IUD stayed right in place. (Still not recommending doing that though!) You should also know what the IUD strings feel like, and check them periodically. For tampons, the same rules apply, just make sure not to pull on your strings.

Birth control and internal menstrual products: vaginal accessories that jive together. Source.

The last thing I want to talk about is the price of IUDs which is a con. They cost around $400-600 depending on the IUD and where you live. I was fortunate in that my insurance covered the IUD cost; it's important to call your insurance company and check before looking into this. If your insurance doesn't cover the procedure or if your don't have insurance, try looking into places like Planned Parenthood. Also remember that the IUD is an investment at first, but you are actually saving money or at least breaking even in the long run, because they can last for 3-12  years; compare that to buying a refill once a month.

Also, this blog is only derived from my personal experience. There are some side effects associated with the IUD and risk factors, so make sure you do your research and talk to your doctor before considering getting and IUD.

Overall, I love my Mirena IUD and I'm very happy with it so far, despite a bit of a bumpy start from the painful insertion.  Of course if you are considering getting an IUD, do you own research, and talk to your doctor about it before you make a decision about what's right for you. (The wikipedia article is a good place to start, or scroll through the IUD tag on the Vagina Pagina livejournal community for more personal accounts. That's also a great place to ask questions from others, and doesn't it have the best name?!) There are also other alternatives that are semi-permanent to consider like the implant. I hope this blog has been hopeful for anyone who was curious. Please leave any questions or your experiences with IUDs down below in the comments.

xo Sarah

Eco-Friendly Period Products, a Brief Overview

Hello lovelies! Today I thought I would write a post about the many eco-friendly feminine hygiene products that are out there for consumers to choose from. There are so many options to consider, in your drugstore aisle or your local organic foods store. I think every woman should at least consider switching to eco-friendly menstrual products, as they create less environmental waste, keeping the earth healthier, and they are not associated with serious health problems like Toxic Shock Syndrome. So here is a list of environmental alternatives for your period:

• Organic cotton pads tampons -  For those of us that are dearly attached to our disposable menstrual products (aka most women), this is a great option for making your period more environmentally friendly without sacrificing your disposable products. Admittedly, you will still be producing waste, but companies such as Natracare and Seventh Generation make an increased effort to cut down on packaging. As well organic cotton products are free from harmful chemicals, such as chorine, dyes, and fragrances… they also shed fibers and leave them behind in the vagina like most non-organic brands.  So this is a great option if you’re not comfortable with trying reusable products, and your body and the environment will thank you for switching to an organic brand. (I have recently received some Natracare products from a contest on BePreparedPeriod so I am excited to try them out.)

• Reusable Instead Softcup / Instead Softcup – Instead Softcup is composed of a plastic sac attached to a firm ring, that is used to collect menstrual flow instead of absorbing it. Softcup is a good intermediary between disposable and reusable menstrual products. Softcup can be worn while sleeping or during intercourse. Personally, I reuse regular Softcup for one period, but the company has also recently come out with a “reusable” version that was designed specifically to be used for one period. (You need to rinse Softcup between uses.) These still create waste of course, but they are healthy for your body and a good stepping stone if you are considering reusable menstrual cups.

  

  Reusable Instead Softcup
• Sea sponge tampons – Sea sponge tampons or "pearls" are made from well, sea sponges, and are used like regular tampons. They are very soft and are reusable for about six months. They are also healthier for your body, and will cut down on how much waste you use.  However, like all reusable menstrual products, you do have to clean and take care of them.

  

  Jade & Pearl Sea Pearls
• Menstrual Cups – Menstrual cups are the big daddy of reusable period products, because they can be reused for years and years. They are bell shaped cups made of medical grade silicone that collect menstrual fluid. They need to been rinsed between uses, and cleaned between periods, but they are extremely comfortable and can be worn while sleeping. These are also healthier for your body and the earth. They come in lots of fun colors as well!



Menstrual Cups come in many colors/sizes.

• Cloth Pads – If you prefer not to use internal products while you’re on your period, but you want something that is reusable, cloth pads are for you. These are very comfortable and absorbent, and come in lots of fun colors and patterns. They are extremely easy to use, but do require cleaning after each use which involves throwing them in the washer and dryer.

So I hope y'all found this post helpful. Have a great week!

FTC: This post was sponsored by Softcup/Evofem. I was compensated to mention Softcup in this post, but these are my 100% honest opinions as always.

Period Sex/Masturbation - Gross or Not?

Hello ladies! I hope you are having a good February. The winner of the Softcup contest from last post was Shelly D. Congrats Shelly! Please let me know if you end up liking the product.

Disclaimer: This post has major TMI, probably more than most of my posts. If you are easily grossed out, it's not for you. k thx bai

Anyways onto the subject of today's post, since it's almost Valentine's day and all I wanted to talk about... period sex. That's right- period sex. I think there's a pretty big taboo surrounding intercourse or masturbation while you're surfing the crimson wave, at least in Western society. Traditionally, in many religions and cultures, women are viewed as "unclean" while they are on their period. And I think a lot of couples are squicked out by the mere idea of period sex, especially younger ones! Well I am here to tell you that period sex or masturbation if you happen to be alone this V-day 1) is still very enjoyable 2) helps relieve cramps (sex = natural pain reliever) and 3) does not have to be messy.

Reusable Instead Softcup

Let's start out with the mess factor, which is obviously a big factor in whether you or your partner, or yourself and your lady parts are going to be combining the sexy times and the period. One thing that will help tremendously is looking into trying Instead Softcup, a menstrual product that can be bought at most drugstores. If you haven't read any of my other posts about Softcup, you can check out my initial review here. Anyways, this is a flexible cup that you can use instead of tampons. It works well, and it leaves room for other things down there--it's an internal menstrual product you can use during intercourse. Most other things, like tampons and reusable menstrual cups, tend to get in the way, but this works well.

500 days of summer - shower sex

Now, Softcup doesn't work perfectly at keeping you completely blood free. There may still be a few drops that come out. I recommend changing your Softcup before intercourse and putting down a towel. You also may feel fresher and sexier if you use a baby wipe or feminine wipe before hand. If your partner is still squicked out by the idea and is male, suggest that he wear a condom (which you should be doing anyways if you're not using another contraceptive). You can also try sex in the shower, which makes things very easy to clean up, but keep in mind this doesn't mix well with rubber condoms.

A SoftCup sits where a diaphragm would in the vagina.

Also, there may be some differences in how intercourse feels. I know when I am having a low cervix day (aka when the dangly thing inside my vajayjay is lower), it doesn't always work as well because there's just not enough space for PiV. (That doesn't mean there isn't space for FiV or MiV.) However, I recently tried the new make of Softcup, which are slightly slimmer in the rim, and it seems to work better . :) You just have to try it out and see for yourselves!

So now that we've established that period sex doesn't necessarily have to be bloody, there's just a few other things to discuss. Firstly, sex is a natural pain reliever because it releases endorphins in the pleasure center of your brain, and this helps relieve pain like headaches or cramps. However, you still want to be careful and gentle, especially in regards to your cervix. Too rough of sex is probably not a good idea since the cervix tends to be sensitive during menstruation (at least for me), and bumping it could make your cramps worse. Take it slow with lots of foreplay and lube, and it should feel just right.

my v-day companion :)

So I hope y'all enjoyed this post! My boyfriend and I are long distance, so I will be spending this V-day with a Softcup and my new purple vibrator. *wink wink*  I hope everyone, single or not, has a great week!

FTC: I was compensated for this blog post, but this is my 100% honest opinion.

PMS - Pre Menstrual Silliness

Hello dears! Today I am going to be covering the topic of PMS, aka Pre Menstrual Silliness. For me personally, I usually experience lower abdominal cramps, leg aches, sadness and irritability, and general tiredness—the emotional tendencies beginning a little before my actual period and everything continuing into my period. The best remedy for all of these is to pamper yourself with lots of chocolate and relaxation time, but as a busy college student, that’s usually not an option. So I usually try to go to bed earlier, take some pain medicine, use my laptop as a heating pad, drink tea, eat yummy food, and avoid stressing myself out as much as possible.  

No heating pad? Overheated macbook to the rescue!

Now that I use reusable cups or Softcup for my period, I have one less thing to stress about because I don’t have to worry about changing my period protection once every eight hours. I also never used to sleep well when I used pads at night, because I experienced frequent leaks. I love my cups for this reason; I can wear an internal menstrual product while sleeping, and I can sleep for hours and hours without a leak. Menstrual cups and cloth pads have saved some of my pretty undies—that’s for sure!

reusable Softcup :)

Some women that start using Softcup or reusable cups also say that their cramps go away completely. I wish this were the case for me, but I still get pretty bad cramps, which spread down to my upper legs, even though I use my cups.  However, as I’ve mentioned before, I find cups to be much more comfortable to wear. I would occasionally be aware of the fact that I had a tampon in, but with cups I can forget about it and have one less bother.

Lunette & DivaCup

So that’s all I have to say about PMS. Please leave a comment with your opinions on the topic!

FTC: I was asked to do this series of posts on Instead Softcup by their marketing company, and I am being compensated,however these are still my 100% honest opinions about the product and my lifestyle.

Giveaway: Instead Softcup Menstrual Cups!

Instead Softcup

Hello lovlies! Today I have a giveaway for y'all! I am very excited to announce that I am giving away a new, unopened box of 24 Instead Softcup! This is actually quite a lot of Softcup--if you use four per period it will last you for six cycles, and if you use one it will last you for two years! The box one lucky blog reader will be receiving is the new design of Softcup that has recently hit the market. I personally prefer this version because the rim is slightly thinner--it's a tad bit more comfortable for insertion/removal and PiV (more coming up on that later). 

For more information on why I choose to use Softcup for about 50% of my period check out my past posts:

•  Holiday Travels & Menses
•  Instead Softcup, a Review
•  Exercise & Menses

Now onto the giveaway rules. Follow them and you will have a better chance of winning. ;)

1. You must enter using the rafflecopter widget. Entries not entered through the widget will not be seen by me!

2. You must follow/subscribe to this blog. You can use email, Google connect, and other accounts I believe. You must provide this information in the giveaway. (Only I will be able to see it.) I will double check these things--please do not try to flout the requirement. No spam please.

3. You may choose to complete optional entries for a better chance of winning. These are also through the widget! Each optional entry is worth one more point:

• Follow me on twitter @loveyourperiod
• Post a blog comment. (Question below.)
• Like this blog post.
• Follow @insteadsoftcup on twitter
• Like Softcup on facebook

4. You must leave the username to validate your following/subscribing/posting! Also you must leave your email so I can contact you if you win.

5. You should be 18 years or older or have your parents permission to enter. I will have to ask for your mailing address.

6. This contest is open internationally, but please know will have to pay the cost of shipping after $6 (via paypal). Sorry--I'm a broke college student!

Good luck! :)

FTC: This blog post and giveaway was sponsored by Instead Softcup, but these are my 100% honest opinions as always.